When it comes to relationships few people face pain and fear head on, instead they lie to others and themselves.  Once a person falls into the habit of lying to themselves it is very difficult to come back to truth and love.  Should the person receive the grace to face truth he will be unsure what to believe.  True love is a great anchor in these instances.  What is true love?
The difference between true love and self-centered love can be discerned the following way: if a person loves another he will find joy in the receiver of his love's joy without her ever knowing he was the author of her happiness.  If he can be happy without ever getting credit for her happiness he knows he loves truly.
And I wish this for those I love most of all.